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Tips: Forbes Tells Us ‘How to Catch a Cheater’

With a name like HighTechAffair.com, you’d maybe expect that we endorse cheating, infidelity… affairs.  But above all, we endorse happiness.  If you feel it necessary to go outside your relationship to find happiness, then you have to do what you have to do.  But you should consider your spouse or significant other and never make your choice lightly.  You’ll find, among the tech reviews, that we’ll show you both how to find out if someone’s cheating as well as how not to get caught.  Part of ‘how not to get caught’ also covers safeguarding your privacy from prying eyes who may not be a spouse or SO and who have no business knowing your business. Roommates, family members who may use your computer or cell phone or public internet terminals where you may not want to do some of the things mentioned on this site anyway.


The short statement: It’s your business what you do and your decision whether to risk hurting someone you’re in a relationship with.  That’s not our business.  What we strive to do is provide tips for safeguarding your privacy as well as getting the most out of the tech that’s available.

With that said, our first “how to catch a cheater” segment comes straight from Forbes.com.  Thanks to SL for the tip!

Some interesting tidbits quoted from Retrevo’s Gadgetology Report which surveyed over 1,000 people on their prying habits:

  • You have a 30% chance of getting caught if you leave evidence on your phone [ed: Rule #1! Don’t leave evidence if you have a reason to hide your actions!!]
  • Women tend to snoop 33% of the time while men only check 30% of the time
  • Younger people are more likely to check up on their partners.. only 28% of the total surveyed check on their partners, but 38% of those under 25 were likely to snoop
  • Only 10% actually found something and ended the relationship.  [ed: How many found something and stayed? No idea]
  • While 36% of married people have snooped, only 3% have found something [ed: does this mean fewer married people cheat or is it that either fewer married people dig deep enough or are maybe better.. or have a more vested interest.. in hiding evidence]

Things the article mentions as tools to catch a cheating partner?

  • Keystroke logging software [ed: not the best idea since many don’t just work for you but also send your info to people who would love to use things like your bank account login for their own purposes… also, antivirus softwares tend to catch all keyloggers, even the ones you can buy and are legit since they can be used for bad purposes]
  • Motion sensing cameras [ed: I assume since they mention Logitech that they mean webcams. They mention needing imagination to figure out how to use them.. basically check the included software, some have security type software that will take photos/video and email or text you when they go off. You can also use something like Orb and it’s motion sensing capabilities to take photos/video and send you notifications. Be aware that usually your webcam’s red light will be ON and it’ll be obvious that it’s active]
  • They mention Spytronix, who sells voice recorders that you could hide in a room to record voice conversations.  [ed: That may work if there are telephone or voice chat calls involved.. which is possible, I suppose, but how many people just chat in text, with or without video, but actually use audio too?  I would treat this as not the #1 thing I’d try to do since it’s probably 50/50 that you actually get anything out of it]
  • GPS tracking via pricey gadgets that require service contracts [ed: Most phones these days have some kind of GPS capabilities and most smartphones now have access to things like Google Latitude or apps that can help with tracking.  Just be aware that Google Latitude sends an email to your account reminding you that you are using Latitude so you can’t really sneak it onto someone’s account without them finding out eventually.  Also, Latitude has an option for turning off the tracking or manually setting your location]

There are other techniques that we’ll cover in another article.  If you want to read the full Forbes article, hit the source link.  Stay tuned to HighTechAffairs.com for REAL information on how to dig up dirt.. and how to keep it buried.

[Source Forbes.com with data from report put out by Retrevo]

January 6, 2011 at 7:03 pm Posted by | Tips | 1 Comment

Tips: Use Facebook Lists to Control Your Social Stream

Do you want to keep all your socialness in one place like Facebook, but hesitate every time you go to post about the late night drinking in a place not just your friends, but your family, may see as well?   Facebook has controls for that!

Do keep in mind that Facebook is ever evolving and there have been times when permissions and settings have been lost or reset resulting in things that were previously hidden suddenly becoming visible, so be smart and either set up two Facebook accounts (one naughty, one relatively nice) or just don’t post things to the “relatively nice”  profile that could get you in serious trouble if the privacy controls fail.

Get Better Privacy and Less Chat Annoyance with Facebook Lists

[Source: Lifehacker]

December 29, 2010 at 12:16 pm Posted by | Facebook, Social Networks, Tips | Leave a Comment

Tips: Talkatone Helps You Make VoIP Calls with Google Voice

Lifehacker tips us to an iPhone/iOS app that helps you use Google Voice to it’s full voice-over-IP glory. It works over 3G or WiFi using an iPhone, iPod or iPad.

Talkatone VoIP via Google Voice on iPhone/iOS

[Source cybernetnews via LifehackeriTunes link]

December 20, 2010 at 2:00 pm Posted by | Cellphone, Google Voice, iPhone, Tips, Voice Over IP (VoIP) | Leave a Comment

Tips: Video Calling with Qik and fring

PocketNow.com gave a good rundown a while ago of some of the issues with running video chat programs such as Qik and fring.

fring video call

Read more about it on PocketNow.com’s article.

December 20, 2010 at 12:00 pm Posted by | Android, Cellphone, Fring, iPhone, Qik, Tips, Video Chat/Webcam | Leave a Comment

Tips: Lifehacker’s Tips For Getting The Most Out of Google Voice

I haven’t even scratched the surface on Google Voice and how it can be used as an alternate way of staying in touch with your secret lover, and Lifehacker’s tips just affirm how little I’ve really played with Google Voice.  It’s a great rundown on some of the things you can do if you use Google Voice’s features correctly.

Here are some highlights:

  • Free SMS that’s not logged on your normal cell account
  • Alternate phone number so you don’t have to give out your real phone number (handy in bars too!)
  • Tie prepaid/disposable phone numbers together under a single Google Voice number
  • Voice to Text transcription and email of your incoming voice mails. That way you can silently screen the calls before replying or deciding if it’s an emergency or not
  • Special call filtering/notification settings so not all calls go through to all phone lines connected to your account. This makes it easier to receive secret calls when you want to, but funnel them to voicemail when you don’t including a special “Do Not Disturb” timer setting

Read more at Lifehacker.com

December 19, 2010 at 11:59 pm Posted by | Google Voice, Tips, Voice Over IP (VoIP) | Leave a Comment