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Be Safe

Anything worth doing is worth doing right.  Whether you’re having a sordid affair or just gettin’ your game on, you want to do it safely.  Safe means a lot of things, from physical safety to dodging the drama.  Here are some tips.

Physical safety

  • Always tell someone where you’re going to be or leave some way of someone finding out in case your meeting doesn’t go as planned.  This is contrary to many of the “don’t leave evidence” safety tips, but if something goes wrong, getting caught is the least of your worries.
  • Meet in a well-lit, public place at least once.. maybe a few times.. before agreeing to go somewhere more private or telling someone where you live, much less inviting them home.
  • Practice safe sex!!  Nothing creates drama and ‘evidence’ more than catching some creepy crawly or getting someone pregnant.


  • Keep things separate. In the computer security (and military) world, it’s called “compartmentalization”. It means keeping a clear separation between things.  Don’t mix known, public accounts with your secret accounts.  There are plenty of free email and IM services that you don’t need to reuse one to save money.. the only reason you’d do it is out of laziness.  Laziness will get you caught, getting caught causes drama.  No drama.   The only time you might do this is when using  Yahoo IM’s alternate profiles, but unless you’re using the real Yahoo Messenger on a desktop computer or laptop, the support isn’t so great and you may accidentally send an IM from your main account and not your secret profile.
  • Always log out and make sure the service doesn’t remember the username.  I know it’s a pain in the ass to re-login all the time, but what’s worse? Someone reading (or messing with) your secret accounts or having to log back in occasionally.  Also do tests.  Be aware that some programs look like they exit, but don’t.  Or do exit, but unless you explicitly “sign out”, they re-login automatically to the last account used.  If you want to be extra safe, log into your main, non-secret account before closing the app/webpage/etc.

I’ll post more as they come up in conversation or come to mind.  Just remember the rules:

Rule #1 – Be safe

Rule #2 – Don’t get caught

Rule #3 – Don’t invite or cause drama

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